All posts by Nikki Echarte
Bisexuality /
Nonbinary
How Getting Non-binary Bisexually Married Finally Sparked My Pride
"They asked me if they should switch my pronouns before I’d worked out how."LGBTQIA+ /
Relationships
Let’s Talk About Queer Uncoupling
"Queer uncoupling is about seeking a better future for the relationship, whatever that may...The Shame of Not Fitting Into the “Strong Black Woman” Archetype
"I clammed up instead of going off. And I always felt ashamed afterwards."Choosing To Navigate My Twenties Without My Mother
"My body, my face, my life, is finally mine now, and I’m not really...Leaving My Toxic Church Helped Me Find Sexual Liberation
"My religion, which was supposed to be my saving grace, turned out to be...Romance Isn’t Dead, It’s Just Patriarchal
"Not only is romance dead, but it’s been dead for some time. In fact,...You Cannot Fix Him, Even as His Mommy Domme
"I pitied these men and identified with them through a masculine lens."Black Experiences /
Nonbinary
I’m Leaving The Binary, But I’m Keeping Black Womanhood
"When I encounter Black women, they rush to “queen” and “sis” me. These moments...Savor the Flavors of HOT POT – a Tasty Digital Event Centering Asian Queer Performers
"Introducing, Sacred Wounds, a bold, vibrant, genre-bending, and unapologetically erotic virtual performance and fundraiser...Back To Monogamy: Polyamory Didn’t Work for Me, and I’m Not Ashamed
"I spent my whole life rebelling against monogamy, but gave myself permission to consider...Asian Experiences /
Dating
Do You Think I’m Attractive – Or Just Under Age?
"Does this person like me for me or do they see me as an...I Learned About Sex and Sexuality Through Instagram: The New Guidelines Will Make That Impossible
"I was 20 and desperately trying to understand sexuality and pleasure in their entirety."Black Experiences /
Kink
How Kink Let’s Black Folk Get Free: The Liberatory Potential of BDSM
"I pray everybody Black finds freedom in kink."How I Learned Compassion From My Lesbian Gym Teacher
"Coach Marino was the only adult who treated me like a person."I Couldn’t Poop at my Boyfriend’s House and it Nearly Ruined my Relationship and my Health.
"I was full of shit, but I didn’t stink."Consent Brings Us Closer: How Boundaries With Friends Taught Me To Love Myself
"Every opportunity to accept or refuse and be met with love and respect is...Non-binary in Italian: Queering the Italian Language
"What if I was to refer to someone who is non-binary? It is impossible...How Bullying Ended My Androgyny
"I think of my 12-year-old self. She knew what she wanted, but eventually it...Health /
Mental Health
I Overcame Disordered Eating By Growing My Own Food
"I felt deserving, and I felt eager to taste."Dating /
Relationships
When Red Flags Signal That They’re Just Not That Into You
"I’ve caught feelings and they’re clearly not reciprocated."What it’s like to Have an at Home Abortion
"When my abortion-in-a-box arrived at my door, I was immediately struck by how benign...A Non-Binary Take on Breast Reduction
"What size should I go to so I could feel both masculine and feminine,...On Gaslighting: How to Survive in a Culture of Manipulation
"We see it in communities, institutions and media representations, but we don’t often identify...My Dad is Fat. And He’s Amazing.
"As an angry middle schooler who was struggling with her own developing body, I...Dear Khloé K, OCD is Not Only A Cleaning Disorder
"When a celebrity refers to a disorder as a blessing and something to make...I Write Gory YA Fantasy to Understand My Queerness, My Anger, & My Autism
"I destroyed an “acceptable” world and woke up to what was possible."How Elliot Page Coming Out Inspires Trans Actors Like Me
"I didn’t believe that my acting career could be anything but soul-crushing and invalidating."Kink /
Trans Experiences
How A Pro-Domme Helped Me Transition
"All the guilt and fear I accumulated over the years smashed against the everyday...Black Experiences /
Religion
Stolen Religion: Cultural Appropriation, White Friends and Mixed Feelings
"I begrudgingly sat down, got sage smudged and entered into the ceremony."Asexuality /
LGBTQIA+
I Love Sex, Just Not For Me
"Everybody thinks they are supposed to pity me for not wanting sex or a...Relationships /
Youth
How TV Teen Dramas Fueled My Need for Toxic Love
"After binging Pretty Little Liars, I found myself searching for stories of forbidden romance...COVID /
Mental Health
5 Steps To Tackling Grief In A Pandemic (Socially Distanced Style)
"I’m fumbling along, but I’ve discovered some things that might be useful."Lesbian /
Relationships
Not All Lesbians Stay Friends With Their Exes And That’s Ok
"I wondered what it was exactly that made me less worthy"I Can See Queerly Now: From a Closeted Relationship to A Straight-Passing One
"In the back of my mind sat the threat that she’d never be able...Unlearning My Childhood Sexual Shame
"Immediately after orgasming, the guilt would bubble out of me, sometimes making me sob."Bisexuality /
Religion