All posts by Lily Dicostanzo
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Demisexuals Get Horny Too, You Know
Demisexuals are people who truly need a deep emotional connection to have quality sex....FYI, Your Vagina Doesn’t Need To Smell Like Flowers
“There has been no change in cases of genital odor over the past...LGBTQIA+ /
Relationships
The Healing Power of Trans/Trans Relationships
" It is assumed, by default, that trans people want (or should want) to...Health /
Relationships
Can We Get Over Herpes Already?
"I’m here to tell you that this stigma is bullshit. Hooking up with the...Bruised Ass? We’ve Got You Covered with These Healing Must Haves
You may find yourself with a sore ass afterwards, frantically googling what you’re supposed...Health /
Relationships
How I Stay Sober When All I Want (Need) Is To Get High
Whether it’s binge-watching funny animal videos on YouTube, going for a run, finally playing...When Self-Care Looks Like Leaving Your Parents on Read
We’ve been taught that our family bond matters above everything else, and that we...#singlelife /
Relationships
How I Discovered I’m Polyamorous While In A Monogamous Relationship
Polyamory doesn’t fix the pre-existing problems in your monogamous relationships. Things like poor communication,...Why I Won’t (Read: Can’t) Hook Up With You
Vaginismus can be physical, psychosomatic, or a combination of both. But, no matter the...Why I Stand By The Fat Fetish Community
I was in the 10th grade the first time I heard the term “fat...“Dear Deadname…”
These days, now that I’ve medically transitioned, my physicality is much more masculine. I...Cover Stars /
LGBTQIA+
Contrapoints Fights Fascism With Facts, Humor – and an Impressive Costume Closet
Flash forward to today, and ContraPoints has been celebrated as everything from “the Oscar...I Know God Still Loves Me (Even If I Have Sex)
Growing up as a Muslim woman, I had a hard time figuring out what...#singlelife /
Health
How to Make a Dildo in Prison: Getting Off Without Getting Arrested Inside A Canadian Penitentiary
As former honor roll student and pretty successful business owner, I knew that I...How To Survive High School As A Trans Teen
Being a teenager is fucking hard. Now, add in the societal pressure of transitioning,...Body Positivity /
Relationships
I Could Benchpress My Husband, And He Loves It
Fat, Fit, and Horny.The Reasons You Should Be Scheduling Sex
Sex Doesn’t Need to Be Spontaneous: Why Scheduling Sex is Sexy!Making The Rules: How Sex Work Helped Me Reclaim Agency In My Relationships
" are often conditioned to... push ourselves further and further out of our comfort...Health /
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Expert Tips On Enjoying Sex When You’ve Got Chronic Pain
Many people, myself included, deal with chronic pain on a regular basis. As a...Who Actually Benefits When Digital Queerness Gets Trendy?
Digital Queerness as the Hottest New CommodityChidera “The Slumflower” Eggerue Doesn’t Care if You Call Her a Gold Digger
I want anybody who's attracted to men to understand that the attraction isn't the...Eight Tips for Meeting New Partners When You’re Living With A Disability
Having a disability might mean your activities are limited or that some of the...#singlelife /
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The Anti-Ghost: How To End A Casual Relationship Like The Classy Bitch You Are
TV shows drag on forever without a resolution, our twitter feeds scroll on and...#singlelife /
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I’m Only Having Group Sex From Now On
Recently, I came to a big realization: I only want threesomes and orgies. No...“You’re Crazy”: My Abusive Partner Had Me Committed
We’ve all heard the historical stories about men who unjustifiably and maliciously tried (often...KhrystyAna on Late Bloomers, Runway Rebellion, and Putting Privilege to Use
“I use my privilege to repost voices that I feel touch me,” she explains,...Cheap Thrills: The Allure of Exclusive Dating Apps
The idea of an app that carefully curates prospects—everyone’s a ten!—is undeniably appealing, even...A Journey to Liberation : Rediscovering Love for my Black, Fat, Femme Body
My liberation needed to be grounded in real emotions — to be okay with...Disability and Dating: How To Set Boundaries — And Ask For Help — With A New Partner
"I obviously explain beforehand why I will be bringing an assistant to the...Representation Matters: An Intimate Look at Love Beyond the Binaries
In the spirit of people speaking to their own experience, Melamed asked six couples...I Quit My Shitty Media Job to Become a Cam Girl – and I Couldn’t be Happier
What good is having a “respectable” job title if I’m sitting around all day...How to Remove Sex Stains From Anything
Here’s the 4-1-1 on how to remove bodily fluid stains from clothes, sheets, and...Amber Rose’s Guide To Taking A Fire Nude
If you’ve ever found yourself lying on your bed with your back painfully arched,...#LittleBootieGang: Why Little Booties Matter
As a woman of color, particularly a Black woman, there is an assumed correlation...I Know I Have Cancer But Please, Just Leave Me Alone With My Vibrator.
An unexpected diagnosis can cause even the most stoic of us to go searching,...Can We Stop Making My Virginity Such A Big Deal?
This language of “loss” to describe this form of intimacy has unconsciously affected how...What I Learned Being Out as Intersex on Dating Apps
Being intersex and navigating hook up apps geared mainly towards cisgendered people is tricky.#singlelife /
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A 2019 Guide to Fuckbois
Fuckbois don't do clear, they are instead notoriously known for never telling you how they...Kink /
Relationships
How to Talk to Straight Dudes about Pegging
If you’ve ever read the sex and dating sections of websites targeted to savvy,...Please Don’t Visit Me At The Strip Club
“Oh wow! I’ve never been to a strip club! I wanna go, what nights...#singlelife /
Body Positivity
Why I Take Sexy Photos of My Native Body
"These are my first sexy photos with this body. I’m coming out with this...#MeToo /
Black Experiences
The #MuteRKelly Movement Won’t Let You Ignore Black Girls Any Longer
How can justice be served if not only Kelly needs to be held accountable,...#singlelife /
Kink